When you have children, and you are single, there is always a stigma attached to one.
some women may look down on you with pity, having to do it alone.
Men may run...and generally do.
But...there are some..who don't. These are the ones to be extra wary of.
After joining an internet dating site 9 months ago, and after being bombarded with one horny male after another wanting to see me on skype.. very annoying!! I came across someone who looked very dam fine. He was "looking for someone to have a candlelit dinner with', on his description.BONUS
We could have a decent conversation, without him ever once wanting to see me neked on skype ..! DOUBLE BONUS.
Meeting for coffee was hinted at on more than four occassions, by either himself, or me, but it never seemed to be happening.
So, one evening, having dinner with my mother, uncle, and aunt in Durban North, and after a few glasses of good red wine..now slightly blotto, I decided to phone him.
My aunt had cautioned me that he actually may be married, and this is why we had never met.
Well, now I was determined to ask him this, and the wine was making me brave enough to do so.
He was at the 'pub' having a few beers, and was also getting blotto.
I came right out and asked the guy.."so, howcome we actually haven't met yet, after chatting for 2 months online..?"
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To cut a long story short, we ended up meeting that very night !
We kissed non-stop for about 4 hours, and then he went home.
I was on cloud nine for the next few days.
We went out for a candlelit dinner, just as he had wanted to..and then started to resume what appeared to me to be a normal relationship.
But I think he had really only wanted the candlelit dinner.
After 8 months of seeing each other, he told me that he wanted to meet someone he could start a family with from scratch.
HEARTBREAK for the next month.
Eglonyl, my dear friend, helped me get back to some normalcy, and I can safely say I am quite over Mr K.
The worst is when you break up, and then, there is just absolutely NO contact.
It's like, you share your most intimate thoughts and feelings with each other, and then suddenly, ....nothing. It's quite bizarre.
The heart is still beating, and when I happen to mention him to the kids, they say " who mom? who is that?"
It's become a bit of a joke.
But thank God for my darlings, because they too got attached, and it could not have been easy for them either.
November 7th 2012.........
Funnily enough, Mr K happens to be back on the scene.
It seems that, without the pressure of being "in a relationship", we are getting on famously, and there has not been one single fight!!
I am more in love than ever...or am I..??
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ReplyDeleteWell I learn once that we go out with peop not just because we like them, but because we are allowing a period of time to get to know someone else. I also learnt that when we go out there are no guarantees that things will work out, but that one has had to throw themselves in the deep end to risk truly falling in love. There are no guarantees and to realize true happiness is to throw yourself in there to find out. That was the risk I understood that was to be taken and unless one keeps trying, one will never know. Goods things don't always come from not taking risks I have found and learning how to get up and crack on is learning how to understand it when I have found it. :-)
ReplyDeleteThat's a good explanation Nick, you're deep :)
DeleteWhat doesn't kill us makes us stronger.. ay !
Dating engine search and your blog comes up....
ReplyDeleteSo I have to ask.. How does the story end?
Wise words Nicholas. I remember once being told relationships is like gambling sometimes you win the jackpot and sometimes you lose it all... but the experience was still fun ;-)